23 April 2020, by Somesh Valentino Curti Joy is one of the most beautiful experiences that we can have in our life. It rises like a wave, reaches its peak and spills over our surroundings through laughter, smiles, dancing, touching, etc. It can be like a calm sea, that makes us notice and appreciate the …
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11 Jan 2020, by Somesh Valentino Curti Shame is one of the toughest feelings we can experience in our life because it affects not only our self-esteem but also our capacity to enjoy relationships, sexuality, work etc., in one word: Life. Many people are severely affected by it and have to deal with intense psychological and …
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5 May 2018, by Somesh Valentino Curti “There is a crack, a crack in everything That’s how the light gets in…” “Anthem” by Leonard Cohen I’ve spent almost all of my life trying to get rid of my “cracks” to be perfect, hoping that it would make me feel complete, satisfied and happy… What a …
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28 October 2017, by Somesh Valentino Curti A funny title for an article about a not so funny experience for many men who have difficulties with keeping their erection during sex. I am a man myself and a Sex counselor in Amsterdam and I know how much this topic is sensitive and can cause painful …
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21 September 2017, by Somesh Valentino Curti   “We do not discover the wisdom of our feelings because we do not let them complete their work; we try to suppress them or discharge them in premature action, not realizing that they are a process of creation which, like birth, begins as a pain and turns into …
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19 November 2016, by Somesh Valentino Curti Being in a depressive state means to identify with a feeling of unhappiness within ourselves. This state is usually related to bad experiences in our past or present life that have caused us pain. The main problem with depression is not the feeling in itself but how we identify …
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24 September 2016, by Somesh Valentino Curti When as expats we cross our secure borders and start living in a new country, or whenever we have to face an unexpected event in life, we might end up in an anxious state. We commonly think that the feelings of unsafety and unpredictability, coming with these experiences, are …
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28 April 2016, by Somesh Valentino Curti Do you get stuck in negative thinking, are you sometimes excessively self-critical or do you avoid negative feelings at all costs? Here are some effective strategies for dealing with negative emotions in a healthy manner. “I am not good enough” “I am wrong” “I am a failure” “I am …
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8 June 2015, by Somesh Valentino Curti Anger is one of the most powerful and primary emotions of human beings. With the improvement of living conditions in modern societies, we would expect to see its presence decreasing, but is that actually happening? Tantrums, fights in the street, intolerance towards others or self-harm are all signs …
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30 March 2015, by Somesh Valentino Curti We are all busy with our love relationships: past, present and even future ones. They take so much of our time because they can bring us into a Heaven made of fulfillment, love and appreciation. Or, just as easily, into a real Hell, full of judgments, misunderstandings and …
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